Grief Support

The death of a significant person in one's life can have a long-term impact. A piece from your life has been removed and now everything hangs in disarray.

It helps to talk about the person you've lost, to express feelings about your loss and to share the memories of a time you spent with your loved one. It can also help to talk about how your loved one died and to share your feelings about how it all evolved. But sometimes you run out of people who will listen. You notice that your friends no longer ask about your well-being or they completely stop talking about the person who has died. Or sometimes the death of a loved one can present challenges that seem to be more than you can bear.

Contact us at (858) 277-2161 for more information or to schedule a free informational visit.

Commonly within hospice care we observe anticipatory grief and bereavement. Anticipatory grief is defined as the normal mourning that occurs when a patient or family is expecting a death. Anticipatory grief has many of the same symptoms as those experienced after a death has occurred. It includes all of the thinking, feeling, cultural, and social reactions to an expected death that are felt by the patient and family. Bereavement is the period of mourning after a loss.  We help patients and families navigate through all stages of grief as much as we are invited too.



At Sonata Hospice, we have a 13 month bereavement program. Throughout this time- we keep the connection with families as a support. We utilize different outlets such as cards, letters, events, visits, support groups, and more depending on the need. We maintain strong relationships in the community with different community partners/resources and will always offer them to you.


FAQ

The death of someone close to us is an emotional experience. The grief we feel is a normal, natural, and necessary to heal.

Our grief can cause feelings of panic, desperation, anger, and great sadness and guilt. We might be confused, forgetful and not able to make decisions. We might feel helpless, hopeless and out of control. This can be very frightening, but it is not "going crazy.” These are typical grief reactions, which will gradually begin to go away.

Anger comes from hurt or fear, and the death of someone we love hurts us and might make us afraid. We might be angry at health care professionals, other family members, the person who died, or God. On top of that we can be angry with ourselves. It can be a difficult thing for us to feel angry or to admit it, but it is just a phase of grief which will pass on. If it doesn't, it might be good to speak with someone about it, to get some ideas on how to express the anger in a healthy way.

When someone dies we might feel guilt. This can involve feeling responsible for the death in some way or for conflict in the relationship in the past. If so, it might be good to find someone we trust with whom we can talk about it. More often, though, we feel regret, which is different from guilt. Guilt is when I blame myself for something bad that happened. Regret is when I feel bad that something happened but I realize it wasn't my fault.

Grief can be similar to the experience of riding a roller coaster.  High, low, fast and slow.   During the process of grief there will be times of feeling “fine”.  Allow these times to be experienced without feeling “bad” about feeling “fine”.

Grieving is a response to loss and requires a time of healing and restoration.  It is an experience that shares similarities with having surgery, time is needed to heal.  A strong faith can help with the process of grieving just like is can help in the recovery from surgery.  Lean into your faith during the difficult time of grieving.  Your faith will provide you with comfort and reassurance.

When a death occurs the relationship with our loved one changes, but it doesn't necessarily end. What we do have to adjust to is the loss of the physical presence of the person and all that it meant to us. And in time we must learn to reengage emotionally with others. Other than that, our beloved is still a part of us. What we "let go” of is the pain we feel at their absence.

Grieving the loss of a loved one is a process and has its own time table.  Be kind to yourself and allow time for the process of grief to unfold.  Some days will be great and somedays, not so great.  As time passes and healing occurs you will find yourself thinking “I just realized, I feel really good.”  Allow yourself the time to heal.

Grief is so personal. What is helpful for one person might not be for another. Sonata has an array of resources for “getting better”.  We encourage you to look into these recourses. Have courage and know that you are not alone and that asking for assistance is an important part of the “getting better” process.